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is it too late to find your purpose?

skiingThis is a photo of my sweet family at Snowshoe Ski Resort where we had an awesome ski adventure!

You may remember we had to reschedule a trip planned after Christmas when they shut down the slopes due to unseasonably warm temperatures. (You may also remember I ended up using that week for a monumental “Tidying Marathon” a la Marie Kondo!)

We were surprised and delighted that the only time we could have rescheduled turned out to be a weekend of epic snowfall (3 feet of fresh powder!!) on the East Coast! At times it felt like we were skiing in a snow globe! So fun!!

Of course, taking 5 days off right before the BIG launch of my new program, Find Your True Purpose Boot Camp, was not ideal, but it only confirmed how glad I am that I created a business that supports a lifestyle I absolutely love.

It’s times like these that I’m even MORE PASSIONATE (if that’s possible!!) that everyone create a life that supports them in doing their purpose-driven work AND STILL have plenty of time to care for themselves, connect deeply with the ones they love, and have plenty of adventures to boot!

If this sounds good to you too, be sure to tune in for my VERY SPECIAL master class on Wednesday, January 27, 2016.

I’m answering ALL of the questions you had related to “the number one thing you’d like to know about finding your purpose” from the Find Your True Purpose survey you received back in December!

You can register here: https://staceycurnow.leadpages.co/live-your-purpose/

“It is only with one’s heart that one can see clearly,
what is essentially invisible to the eye.” 
– Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Most of my coaching clients are in their late 40’s or in their 50’s and 60’s. One of their main worries is that it’s too late for them to find their purpose – the thing that would truly make them light up if they could do it.

They think, “If I haven’t found it yet, it means I’m not ever going to find it.”

Sometimes they look back and they see “missed” opportunities – steps that, if they had taken them would have put them on a different path and made all the difference in knowing their purpose and feeling happy – but more often they feel like they’ve always felt a lack of passion or purpose.

When they come to work with me they have a sense of “emotional mortality” – the realization that they’re not going to live forever – and they don’t want to be at the end of their life and wish they had challenged themselves more to do meaningful work.

Some even feel – for the first time – a burning desire to create work that’s their very own, and to use that work to leave a legacy.

Still they think that if they haven’t found their purpose, that means they probably won’t ever find it.

But not having found their purpose at whatever age – that’s not their real problem. Their real problem is a feeling of hopelessness.

find your purposeAnd I understand, I really do. Most of us have been disappointed in life. We’ve had something that didn’t go like we planned or like we expected. We’ve laid plans – sometimes plans that we carried out for many years – only to find the results less than we’d hoped. And then our disappointment turns to doubt, which turns to worry, which turns to discouragement, insecurity, and guilt. Finally it calcifies into hopelessness.

But every time they think a thought like, “If I haven’t found my purpose yet, I probably will never find it,” they could choose to think another thought like, “I just haven’t found my purpose yet. All that means is that I wasn’t supposed to find it yet. But I know I’ll find it if I keep looking.”

Do you really think you’re too old to find it? Well, you don’t have to look very hard to find plenty of examples of people who found their purpose later in life. And I want them to be our models.

You’ve heard me talk a lot about Louise Hay – she was in her 40’s when she wrote You Can Heal Your Life – and now in her late 80’s, she’s still rocking her purpose.

Edwene Gaines was in her 50’s when she embarked on her purpose. She’s also in her 80’s now – and wrote her best-selling book The Four Spiritual Laws of Prosperity, eleven years ago (in her 70’s!).

So are you really going to let your age or some “missed” opportunities be your excuse for not discovering and LIVING your purpose now and being happy?

If you want to stop making excuses and receive actionable next steps for finding your true purpose right now, I hope you’ll join me for my special master class on Wednesday, January 27, 2016. You can find out more and register, here: https://staceycurnow.leadpages.co/live-your-purpose/

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GriffinThat’s a photo of Griffin proudly displaying the poster he made to run for 6th grade student council.

He knew he was an “underdog” because other classmates told him since he was in student council last year, someone else should get a chance to represent this year.

He did a lot of good last year (the photo in the poster is from a creek cleanup he organized for the school) and wanted to continue to do more good.

He didn’t win, and he was a little disappointed, but he mostly felt proud that he went for what he wanted, rather than defer because he thought it was a long shot.

As you know, I don’t believe in failure. Or rather, I look at “failure” as a badge of courage – a testament that you’re doing hard and interesting things with your life.

Show me someone who hasn’t “failed,” and I’ll show you someone who has a boring – and to me, undesirable – life.

It’s a widely held truth that you’ll almost always regret the things you don’t do, rather than the things you do.

So if you don’t want to look back on your life with regret, you better start challenging yourself now.

Sometimes when I ask my clients “If money weren’t an issue, what would you do with your time?” they answer that they don’t know or that they would sit on a beach all day.

I think their uncertainty is understandable, but I’m also pretty sure that they do know what they would do with their time, and it’s not sitting on a beach all day.

What I’m really getting at is if they didn’t have to make money to support themselves and their families, what would they want to do with the their lives?

We all have the potential to feel extraordinarily engaged and excited about the work we do in the world, and it is my belief that we are happiest when we are devoting a good bit of our time doing that thing.

I further believe that you can even make a living and support your family while doing it!

I’m certainly not saying that you should quit your day job right this moment, but you can lay the groundwork to make that a feasible option sooner rather than later. (If you know me, you know that I’m not a big fan of the “I’ll get to do what I really want when I retire.” plan.)

no regretsSo first things first, do you know what you’re passionate about? If you don’t, I’ll ask you to be a bit of a time-traveling detective. What did you love doing between the ages of 9-11? Studies show that your childhood interests and talents hold clues to what would give your life its greatest sense of meaning and satisfaction today.

If you can’t remember back to your childhood, what ambitions did you set aside when you were younger because “you couldn’t make a living doing that”? What chance meetings stand out for you? What are some of the things that others have said about you that have stuck with you over the years?

Now imagine yourself saying “I feel excited (or strong, or purposeful) when I am…” Remember you are talking about something you are doing, not something that is happening to you.

There are so many possibilities for finding meaningful, satisfying and lucrative work, but we often don’t see them because we’ve been conditioned to believe that life consists mostly of doing things we don’t want to do, and working for money is chief among them.

So the really important thing is to start spending time – any amount of time – doing the thing you want to do without worrying if it’s practical. Then once you get into it you can test to see if you can make money from it.

In his book Crush It!, Gary Vaynerchuk says that you can determine if you can “monetize” your passion by answering one question: Can you think of at least fifty blog topics that you’re excited to write about it? He feels that number of posts is the minimum you’ll need to give yourself enough time to get a feel for the situation.

He goes on to say that if you have identified your true passion, you’ll find five hundred things to say about it. And people will want to hear – and pay to hear – what you have to say about it.

He contends that when you are doing what you truly love, even the smallest niche can sustain a nice forty-to-seventy-five thousand dollar-a-year business. Since that’s what most of us make at our soul-sucking jobs, it sounds like a great proposition to me!

I’ll be taking this topic even further on my special master class: How to Find and Live Your Purpose: Simple Steps for Getting Your Unique Gifts in the World (happening next week!), so if you’re interested, find out more and register here: https://staceycurnow.leadpages.co/live-your-purpose/

 

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